Is your limiting belief stopping you from achieving your goals?
We all have conscious and subconscious thoughts and beliefs which govern our daily actions. Sometimes these beliefs are negative, whether we realise it or not, and they can become limiting. Preventing us from moving forward and succeeding. These beliefs sometimes stem from childhood, other times they’re created by experiences later in our lives.
How can beliefs and thoughts change your actions and progress towards your goals? Well, they become a self-fulfilling prophecy. We think we aren’t capable or are a failure and through the power of the mind we end up being just that. If you see yourself a certain way, it can be hard to change that view and let go of that limiting belief. So how do you know if you have any self limiting beliefs?
There are eight telling phrases that point to a limiting belief:
1. I’m not worth it – The idea that you’re not smart enough or good enough to do what you really want can be a very strong limiting belief system, that affects women more than men. If you feel you’re not smart enough, good enough or pretty enough, to have something, you won’t be driven to achieve it, because you don’t feel that you deserve it.
2. I can’t do it – Often people blame their circumstances, when they feel helpless or incapable of achieving something. It’s easier to blame external factors than it is to start fixing what lies within. There’s not much that you can learn to do in today’s internet age.
3. It’s useless – The idea that nothing you do will make a difference is that you believe that any action you take won’t make a difference. ‘It doesn’t matter if I work out an hour a day, I won’t lose weight anyway.’ How do you know? Have you tried to do anything for longer than a couple weeks? However, by thinking in this way you give yourself a ‘get out of jail card’ to not even try.
4. It’s genetic – There are certainly some instances where genetics play a huge role in a person’s life. The majority of issues can be fixed with the right mindset, training, exercise, and outlook. You’re not stuck with your genetics. However, if you think you’re, you may not try any of the things to pull yourself out of the rut you’re stuck in. Again highlighting the power of the mind.
5. It’s out of my control/It’s the universe – Sometimes a limiting belief has to do with the idea that outside forces that you can’t control are at work keeping you from success. You can’t find a job because there are none around, but you do nothing in your power to change it because your belief is it’s destiny. ‘Everything happens for a reason‘, this type of thinking can be very limiting and make you feel powerless in the process.
6. It’s hopeless – Anytime you use the word ‘never’ is a clue that you’re focusing on a limiting belief. For example: ‘I’ll never have any money, because you need money to make money’. This type of thinking keeps you well and truly in your rut.
7. I’ll fail – The fear of failure is a limiting belief most people have at some point in their lives. They’re so scared of failing that they don’t even try. You never know if you try, you might well be amazing!
If you ever hear yourself mentally say any of these phrases, try to disconnect from them and change their focus. For example, if you’re thinking ‘they won’t pick me’ think ‘why wouldn’t they pick me’. The truth is, you’re not feeling anything different from people who have have still achieved their goals- they felt the fear and did it anyway. The difference is in the doing, not the intelligence, circumstances or talent.