It was a wintery October day when Mr Hubby and I agreed it was time to start a family. I was overjoyed, as it was something I had wanted for a long time, but we agreed to wait until after Christmas. We would start trying in the new year. I could just about wait that long.
January arrived and I thought maybe I would get pregnant right away. A few of my friends had, so I knew it could happen. January passed us by and soon months and months had passed without us once seeing the long desired ‘Pregnant’ on one of the hundreds of tests I took. I read so many forums and took what I wanted from the stories. The majority of people got pregnant within a year, so maybe I would too.
Many more months passed so we went to visit the Doctor, who started the ball rolling with our fertility tests. I was in my 30’s so I couldn’t just wait and see or I feared it might be too late. All the initial tests for both of us were fine. Initial diagnosis of unexplained infertility. There were times when I thought I would have preferred it if they had found something, something that they could fix.
I seemed to spend hour upon hour sitting in waiting rooms, surrounded my mums to be and their bumps. They would all have their pregnancy folders. I longed to have one of those folders. To be pregnant, not sitting there empty and scared. I would hear them call their partners with details of their scans and I started to believe that it would never happen for me. I would never be sitting in the waiting room waiting for my scan, I would never be in ‘that’ club. How cruel that we all sit together.
As the time went on the tests became more invasive and my hope began to disappear. I started to truly believe that it was never going to happen, I was never going to get pregnant. We tried everything monitors, temping, acupuncture, nothing worked. I started to look on adoption websites, google surrogacy. I wanted our own baby, but I also had such a desire to be a mum, I knew I had to do something.
It was one February day when we met the Consultant and he said he would refer us for IVF. My heart rose, thank god! Someone was going to help. Then he knocked our legs away when he said that we would have to fund the treatment ourselves due to my age (would be 35 at the beginning of treatment). In our area the cut off age was 34. He discussed a good time for us to start would be August and so we had 6 months to save thousands. We worked every hour we could and we did it (god knows how). We booked our appointment for mid August 2012. I felt so relieved. At last someone was going to help. I hoped that this might work, technology was going to help me get pregnant. We wouldn’t be on our own with it all anymore.
A few days before our appointment I realised I was late. Weirdly unlike any other month I wanted to avoid doing a test. I waited and waited until the last possible time to cancel our IVF appointment. On 12th August 2012 I did a test and it was positive. All our dreams came true. I had come to believe that may be I was never going to be a mum, then within a couple of minutes I knew I was going to be. I would get the pregnancy folder (to me it had become the symbol of pregnancy), I would get to have ‘our’ baby. I would get to celebrate a Mother’s Day.
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I could have written some of this post myself! It is so frustrating trying when you don’t fall pregnant straight away isn’t it. I remember bursting into tears at work when I found out yet another one of my friends was pregnant.
I am so pleased it happened naturally for you in the end, and what a gorgeous girl, she was definitely worth the wait! Do you think that some of the pressure had been taken off whilst you were thinking about the IVF? I often think when you take the pressure off and concentrate on something else things seem to happen.
Hope you have a wonderful Mother’s Day!
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I have done that too! Thank you we think she is. I think it must have taken the pressure off. Everyone used to say it will happen when you relax! So annoying, but must have worked. Thank you and I hope you have a lovely day too x
That must have been such a worrying time for you. But I am so pleased that you got your happy ending. Hope you have a lovely mothers day xx
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It was horrible. Thank you so much, so am I. Hope you have a lovely day too xx
Congratulations, its so lovely to hear that you are now a mummy.
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Thank you x
I remember trying to get pregnant the first time…it only took me a few months but the wait was excruciating…so I can only imagine how it must have felt for you. I am so glad your story has a happy ending, she is gorgeous!
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It was a difficult time. Very hay ending now. Thank you 🙂 x
So pleased to hear you had a happy ending!
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Thank you very much x
Wow, what a lovely post! It actually brought tears to my eyes…I’m so pleased it all worked out for you in the end – and nice you had the cash you’d saved to spend on your baby instead! A really lovely post!
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Aw thank you so much. I had to buy a car with the money are mine died just beforw our 12 week scan. Lucky I had it though x
Sorry that you went through such a horrible time, I’ve been there too. Am so pleased that it worked out for you, I love a story with a happy ending!
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Thank you, it was all worth it in the end! x
Ooh I have goosebumps all over. What a wonderful success story! It’s amazing how often I have heard people saying that they found out they were pregnant AT the IVF clinic! Such wonderful news. Enjoy your Mother’s Day x x
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That’s really kind of you to say. I think you must just relax a bit and then it happens. Have a lovely Mother’s Day too x
Having a baby is not easy. I am very pleased that you had a safe pregnancy and now have your beautiful baby x
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Thank you very much x
Such a lovely post, I’m so glad it all worked out for you in the end. X
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Thank you. It was all worth it x
Thank you for sharing your story, so amazing how you were pregnant just as you were due your appointment. That must have been the best news ever!
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It was amazing, and then my car broke so I used the IVF money to buy a car x
What an emotional post with such a happy ending. It took us 10 years to get Maxi and then like buses we got Mini 14 months later (they both came along together). happy Mothers Day to you
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Wow! That’s great, but 10 years, that must have been awful! Glad you have your happy ending too x
So pleased for you! Happy mother day!
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Thank you! You too! x
Aaaw, this is a wonderful post – you have made me grin from ear to ear! 😀
Enjoy your Mothers day x
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Thank you hun. Have a great day too x
What an emotional journey you have had. Your little one is a proper little lovely! Happy Mothers Day!
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Thank you, horrible there for a while but amazing now 🙂 x
Wow, what an emotional journey! Although we didn’t struggle the first time round we are now trying again which seems to be taking its time and with a mc last month. I’m glad you have your precious daughter to hold this mothers day 🙂 xx
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Oh hun I didn’t know you had a mc & so recently. I hope you are ok and that you get well looked after on Sunday x
What an amazing (and Frustrating) journey. I have a couple of friends who struggles to conceive and then it happened when they relaxed and stopped trying. So happy your beautiful baby girl arrived safely xx
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Thank you very much, she was worth the heartache x
Enjoy Mother’s Day!
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Thank you, you too x
what a lovely story, although we didn’t have fertility issues we did loose a baby before Wilf. You just never imagine it would be anything other than straightforward until you experience something like this do you. Happy Mothers day lovely x
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Thanks hun, we did too 🙁 You’re right you just assume it will be ok. Happy Mother’s day to you, hope you get truly spoiled x
Wow what a touching post. You must have been absolutely delighted to find out you were pregnant. We didn’t do IVF but POD didn’t arrive till I was 40. Will always feel blessed for that x
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Thanks hun, Very delighted but also terrified! Sounds like we are both blessed x
Great post and so happy everything worked out in the end. Happy mothers day. Thanks for linking up #binkylinky
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Thank you very much. You too! x
I am so pleased for you. Enjoy your mothers day.
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Thank you. You too x
I am happy for you that all ended up just as you wanted 🙂
Enjoy Mothers Day!
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Thank you so much x
What a wonderful photo- how similar you are!
We too have a similar story. And oddly, for the problems we had conceiving the first time, second time it was immediate, and twins.
Life has a wonderful way of working itself out.
Happy Mothers Day!
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Wow! twins, it’s strange how things turn out. Hope you have a lovely Mother’s Day too x
Happy Mother’s Day, I am glad your story turned out positive for you x #binkylinky
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Thank you, you too! x
Such nice story! Made me remember when i saw those two lines as well. Scary, excited and mostly proud that I am given a chance to be take care of a little person.
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Exactly, the best gift ever x
Truly inspiring story. On the 20th I went to the hospital to have an ultrasound to make sure there isn’t anything “wrong” with my ovaries and uterus that would prevent me from having another kid. After last year’s miscarriage I guess I was a bit freaked out and worried that something is wrong. I’m waiting now to see if my doctor will give me the ok to try again. I pray I will have your strength and determination and not give up hope.
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Good luck & I hope you get everything you wish for x
Awww this is a beautiful story. We struggled to conceive for a very long time and I know exactly what you mean about the pain of sitting in those waiting rooms surrounded by people clutching those folders. In the end, we had to go through IVF to have Potato. It was a tough journey but worth every step. I’m so happy for you that you were able to have your beautiful little girl naturally.
Thank you for linking up with #BinkyLinky
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Thank you so much and I am glad you were blessed with Potato x
Such a lovely story. I’ve heard a few times of people finding out they are pregnant just before starting IVF and having now been through IVF, I can imagine just how amazing a discovery that would be. Have a happy Mother’s day!
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Thank you. I hope you get all you wish for x
What a lovely post. I am one of those people who has been incredibly lucky, and my heart goes out to those who try for such a long time. I hope you enjoyed your Mother’s Day – you waited a long time for it x
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Thank you, your comment made me fill up 🙂 I had a lovely day x